We all have heard and we know that the role of a mother in
parenting is the most important. We know all about her love, sacrifice,
dedication and determination in shaping her children’s future. But, how many of
us know that a father also plays an equally important role in parenting? It’s
true that mothers are very important for a child’s build-up, but fathers are
also important for a child right from birth to adulthood. Mothers have their
own way of handling children, while fathers parent differently from them. This
is why a child needs both mother and father to grow up as well-adjusted adults.
Fathers are vital for the emotional well-being of a child. A
supportive and affectionate father who is greatly involved in a parent-child
relationship can immensely contribute to the child’s social development, inner
strength, self-esteem, authenticity and well-being. Having a considerate father
means the child grows better emotionally and intellectually.
How fathers can influence
their children?
The relationship that a child has with his/her father
affects all the relationships that they have with different people from birth
to death like friends, lovers and spouses. The pattern of interaction that a
child has with his/her father is what is projected forward into all
relationships.
Girls who have been loved by their father will look for a
man who holds the same values as her dad. If their father has always been kind,
loving, gentle and generous, they will look for those characteristics in other
men too. Because this is what they have received in their childhood and
upbringing, they will be delivering the same values in every relationship they
create in the future.
Boys tend to model themselves after their fathers. They
generally copy all the behaviour that their father possesses that they
recognize as successful. So, if the father is kind, loving and protective, this
is what the son will want to be. Similarly, if the father is abusive and
dominating, the son will be imitating the same pattern.
So what should a
father do?
To have your child being a good human, you need to be one
first. If you have the qualities of kindness, love, generosity and affection,
you need not do anything but be yourself. But, if you are more of the
aggressive, abusive and dominating sort, make sure you transform yourself as
soon as you can.
Spend quality time with your children. This means getting
away with all the distractions of technology like smartphones, televisions and
the Internet, and focusing only on your child. Even if you spend an hour of the
day with your children this way, it will cultivate positivity within their
minds and hearts. You need not necessarily help them with their homework or
other stuff; just spend some personal time with them. A small presence of yours
can go a long way to raise happy children and boost their confidence.
The teachers at GAFL, the finest CBSE school in Bangalore, are not only great educators, but treat
the students as their own children. Spending few hours every day with your
children, they work no less than parents for them. A few qualities of love,
affection and care are given to them at school, but as a parent, it is your
duty to nourish them with the same too.
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